Best Strategy for Parents to Get a Great IEP

 

A strong IEP doesn’t just happen—it’s the result of preparation, collaboration, and advocacy. Here’s a proven strategy parents can follow to build a meaningful, effective IEP that truly meets their child’s unique needs.

 

1. Start with a Vision Statement

Begin by defining your long-term vision for your child. What are your hopes in 1, 3, or 5 years?

Include in your parent input:

“Our long-term goal is for [child’s name] to become as independent and confident as possible, with strong self-advocacy and academic skills."

This sets the tone for the entire team and keeps the IEP focused on your child’s future—not just the school’s services.

 

2. Gather and Organize Data

Create a folder or binder with the following:

• Most recent evaluations and test scores

• Past IEPs and progress reports

• Teacher emails and feedback

• Medical or therapy records (if relevant)

• A written list of your current concerns

This makes it easy to reference and back up your requests with evidence.

 

3. Request an IEP Meeting Early (If Needed)

You don’t have to wait for the annual meeting. If the current IEP isn’t working or your child’s needs have changed, request a new meeting in writing.

Sample language:

“I’m requesting an IEP meeting to discuss changes needed to better support my child’s current needs. Please let me know available dates.”

 

4. Write a Parent Input Statement

Most IEPs have a section for Parent Concerns—use it!

• Be clear, respectful, and specific.

• Highlight your child’s strengths and challenges.

• Include what you believe should be changed or added.

Pro Tip: Email your statement before the meeting and ask that it be copied directly into the IEP.

 

5. Focus on SMART Goals

Make sure every IEP goal is:

• Specific

• Measurable

• Achievable

• Realistic

• Time-bound

If a goal is vague (e.g., “will improve behavior”), ask:

“How will we measure that? What does success look like?”

 

6. Make Sure Services Match Needs

Each goal should have a matching support or service. Ask:

• What instruction or therapy supports this goal?

• Who delivers the service, and how often?

• Where does it happen—in the classroom, pull-out, or group?

If you’re unsure, ask for specifics to be written into the IEP, not left to interpretation.

 

7. Build Relationships, Not Just Arguments

Approach the IEP team as collaborators, not opponents:

• Use “we” language: “How can we work together to support this?”

• Show appreciation when appropriate

• Ask for clarification, not confrontation

You can disagree respectfully and still keep the focus on your child.

 

8. Follow Up in Writing

After meetings or key conversations:

• Send a summary email confirming what was discussed or agreed upon

• Restate any concerns that weren’t addressed

This protects your child and creates a clear paper trail.

 

9. Don’t Be Afraid to Say “No” or “Not Yet”

You do not have to sign the IEP the day of the meeting. If something doesn’t sit right:

• Take time to review

• Ask questions

• Consider bringing an advocate or requesting mediation if needed

 

10. Keep Evolving

Your child’s needs will change. So should their IEP.

• Schedule regular progress updates

• Adjust goals and services as needed

• Keep learning—attend workshops, join support groups, and know your rights

 

Final Tip: The Best IEPs Are Built on Preparation + Partnership

You are the expert on your child. When you combine your insight with clear communication and advocacy, you create a powerful team working toward the same goal: your child’s success.