Common IEP Mistakes,
Red Flags & Parent Pitfalls
Creating an Individualized Education Program (IEP) can be overwhelming. Understanding common issues can help you advocate more effectively for your child.
Common IEP Mistakes
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Vague Goals: IEP goals should be specific, measurable, and time-bound. Avoid goals like “will improve reading” without clear benchmarks.
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Missing Services: Ensure all necessary support services (OT, PT, speech, counseling, etc.) are included with frequency and duration.
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No Progress Tracking Plan: The IEP should state how and when progress will be measured—don't rely on report cards alone.
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Generic Accommodations: Watch for one-size-fits-all modifications. Accommodations should address your child’s specific needs.
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Infrequent Reviews: IEPs must be reviewed at least annually. Don’t let them go stale or outdated.
🚩 Red Flags in the IEP Process
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“We don’t do that here.”: This may indicate a lack of flexibility. Services are based on need, not convenience.
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Pre-filled IEPs or Rushed Meetings: IEPs must be collaborative. If it feels pre-decided, speak up.
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Lack of Data: Decisions should be backed by recent assessments, observations, and performance data.
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No Parent Input Section or Summary: Your voice must be documented. Ask to review what was written under “Parent Concerns.”
❗ Pitfalls for Parents to Avoid
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Not Preparing Ahead: Review past IEPs, evaluations, and come with written concerns or goals before the meeting.
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Skipping the Invitation to Bring an Advocate: You have the right to bring a friend, advocate, or specialist to the meeting.
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Accepting Services Based on Availability: Push for what your child needs, not just what’s offered.
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Not Asking for Prior Written Notice (PWN): If a request is denied, ask for it in writing with the reason and data used.
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Signing Under Pressure: You don’t have to sign the IEP during the meeting. Take it home, review, and ask questions.
💡 Pro Tip:
Build a binder with evaluations, past IEPs, communication logs, and notes. Staying organized strengthens your advocacy.

Action Steps for Parents to Prevent IEP Mistakes
Being proactive can make a major difference in the outcome of your child’s IEP. Use these steps to stay ahead, advocate effectively, and ensure your child receives the support they deserve.
1. Prepare Before the Meeting
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Review all documents: Read the previous IEP, evaluation reports, and progress data. Highlight concerns and questions.
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Write down your goals and concerns: Bring a written statement to the meeting. Ask for it to be included in the IEP.
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Request records in advance: Email the school to ask for any draft IEPs, evaluations, and reports at least 5 business days ahead.
2. Bring Support
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Invite an advocate, therapist, or trusted person. You don’t have to attend alone—support can help you stay focused and assertive.
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Record the meeting (if allowed): Notify the team in writing, per your state’s law, and record for accuracy.
3. Ask Questions and Speak Up
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Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t understand.” Ask for clarification on terms, services, or goals.
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Challenge vague language: Insist on goals that are measurable and services that are clearly defined.
4. Request Prior Written Notice (PWN)
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If the school refuses a request, say:
“Please provide a Prior Written Notice explaining the decision, the data used, and the alternatives considered.”
5. Don’t Sign on the Spot (Unless You’re Ready)
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Take the IEP home and review it. Ask for 48 hours to read and consult if needed.
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Highlight anything you disagree with and send back your comments in writing.
6. Track Everything
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Keep a binder or digital folder with:
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All IEPs and evaluations
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Emails and communication logs
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Meeting notes and requests
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Create a simple log of concerns and school responses.
7. Follow Up in Writing
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After meetings or phone calls, send a short email summarizing what was discussed. This creates a paper trail.
8. Know Your Rights
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Learn the basics of IDEA and your state’s special education regulations.
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Contact your state’s Parent Training and Information Center (PTI) for free guidance.
9. Schedule Regular Check-Ins
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Ask for quarterly meetings or updates if progress is unclear.
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You don’t have to wait for the annual IEP to make changes.
10. Trust Your Instincts
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If it doesn’t feel right, ask more questions, seek a second opinion, or request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) at public expense if you disagree with the school’s evaluation.